Tuesday, October 7, 2014

Cleansing Workshop - MUST DO!

This summer my husband and I began a cleansing, which we have read and heard is essential at creating a solid marital bond and in growing and moving forward in the dominant/submissive relationship.  It was a phenomenal experience and I want to encourage all of you to do this.  It's painful both outwardly and inwardly but it has brought us so much closer together.  It is worth the work.

Submission is an act of letting go and trusting that the other person knows what is best and what is needed.  It is an act of confessing to the need to be disciplined and allowing it to occur.  It's hard but often times a woman can't submit because there are old things, past things, blocking her.  Often times these are subconscious but sometimes they are things that have a great deal of power over the female psyche.  For example, a past sin can keep a woman from presently submitting because subconsciously she feels she doesn't deserve to receive a clean slate for her actions.  These past things must be addressed for her to move forward.

They can be as simple as telling a little white lie, to having a full blown affair.  No matter how complicated the sinful past, the husband must address it, punish her for it, and then help her move on from it.

In a submission workshop I attended, we learned about a woman that had had sexual feelings for one of her husband's coworkers and she felt guilty even though it had been years ago and she never acted on those feelings.  The workshop leaders, an established DD couple, explained how this woman was being held back by her feelings of guilt and not allowing herself to embrace submission or a clean slate from her husband. They recommended a cleansing program, wherein she confessed her indiscretion and guilt to her husband and he punished her and then offered her forgiveness.  The woman gave a testimonial that it was so freeing that it changed their relationship for the better and now she submits to him without hesitation.

Others had bigger sins in their pasts, but the formula for revival was the same.  That's what I want to share with you.  My husband and I did this over the summer and we are in a much better place.  It works and I don't think a DD relationship can move forward without it.

Step 1:  Sit down together and talk about this.  If she is having trouble submitting, discuss whether or not this could be the problem; especially if there have been indiscretions in the past.

Step 2:  She must be willing to ask you to punish her for her past sins.

Step 3:  She must be willing to write down those sins and to work through them one by one.

Example:  On day one, you deal with the first issue on the list.  On day two, the second issue and so forth.

Step 4:  An agreed upon punishment must be laid out AHEAD OF TIME.  For example:  For lying, it is one spanking with one implement.  The severity of the spanking depends upon the severity of the lie.

For an affair, it is a full two days of punishment, involving 3-5 spankings each day with several implements and corner time necessary for her to think about what she has done, her punishment and the offering of forgiveness and acceptance.

Step 5:  The agreement is put into writing.  "I, Sally, am asking, John, to help me overcome my past mistakes and teach me submission by confessing my indiscretion of sleeping with your coworker, admitting it was wrong and shameful, and asking you to punish me so that I can forgive myself and accept your forgiveness and be cleansed.  I agree to a two day punishment of 6-10 spankings, corner time and anything you feel necessary to help me learn submission."   

Step 6:  Follow through is essential and must be done.  The punishment sessions must be hard and long and more intense than anything you have experienced together.  If she is not sobbing beneath your whipping, you have failed her.  Part of the cleansing comes with the tears.

Step 7:  Punishment sessions must be done naked.

Step 8:  Punishment sessions must be consecutive days.

You will see a new life in yourself and your wife if you do this.  I guarantee it.  She may not know she needs this from you, but she desperately needs it and she will thank you for it when it is all over.  You will have proven you are stronger than any of her sins and that your love for her is dominant over all other factors in this world.  When she sees this and feels it on her bottom and believes it in her heart, submission will come easily.

Start this today!!!

Attitude Adjustment OUCH

I'm sitting at my computer with a very red bottom and I'll tell you why.  I've been in a mood lately and my husband finally had enough.  This morning I was in the kitchen and he looked at me and without saying a word, he took me by the hand, led me into the downstairs guest room and instructed me to bend over the side of the chair.  When I asked why, he told me I could think about that while he spanked my bottom.  I didn't really need to think about it, I knew exactly why I was getting a spanking and I knew it was deserved.

He pulled my panties down and raised my nightshirt up so my butt was completely exposed. Then he pulled out a wooden spoon he had taken from the kitchen and paddled me hard.  It stung and I cried out but that only made him paddle faster and harder.  When he stopped I could feel my butt stinging.

"Are you sorry?"  He asked.
"Yes," I cried.
"Not as sorry as you're about to be," he said and then gave me twenty-five more fast, hard smacks with the spoon.

"Go stand in the corner," he said and I got up and went there.  I could hear him leave the room and come back carrying his discipline tools.  Right then I knew I was in for a beating.  "Lay on your back on the bed and put your legs into the air," he said.  "I want you to look me in the eyes while we address this issue."

I hate that and he knows it.  I cry everytime he does it because it's humiliating to have to look at him while he punishes me, especially when I know I deserve what I'm getting.  Still, having to look him in the face while he paddles my bottom is embarrassing.

I laid down and he took the wooden paddle and gave me a smack.  When I closed my eyes he ordered me to look at him.  "What did you do to deserve this?"

"I talked myself down," I answered because I knew what the paddle was for.

He paddled me several times with his eyes locked on mine.  He reminded me that I'm beautiful and should treat myself better.  He said that he will not hesitate to punish me every time I say something negative about myself.  Fifty swats in total and I was balling.

After that, he sent me back to the corner and instructed me to place my hands on my thighs, but not to touch myself.  I was super wet and on the verge of cumming already and holding my hands so close to myself made me want to touch myself that much more.  He knew it and this was a lesson in submission and obedience.

"Please?"  I said and inched my index finger over toward my pussy.

His answer was a swift swat on my ass with his hand.  "I said no," he told me and he let me suffer there for over a minute, until I felt like I was going to explode.

Then he moved me to the bed and bent me over his knee where he gave me a hard hand spanking.  He reached his hand from behind and fingered me until I came, which didn't take but a few seconds.  Once I came, he slid me from his lap to the side of the bed and took his belt and whipped me for my attitude, which had been really terrible the past few days.  The whipping stung bad and I finally broke down and cried.  He knows that once I orgasm, the punishment is taken much more seriously.  The sexual tension is gone and the discipline is driven home.  He whipped me over sixty lashes, that was when I lost count anyway.

When he was done, he held me and I immediately slid to my knees and gave him a blow job.  I don't know what it is about his authority but it makes me want to please him in ways I can't even explain. 

After he came and we cleaned up, he held me for a few moments and then told me it was time for us to go back to boot camp.  That's where I get a spanking one to three times every day for 5 consecutive days.  I started to cry because my bottom was so sore and I didn't want to go through boot camp. but I know that it works and that I am a better person when he holds me accountable.  I need him to discipline me when I can't hold myself in check.  I respect him for having the strength of character to know when I need it and to be able to teach me submission.  So, I am sore but in a much better place emotionally and mentally.